What a way to die...5\2\14

My sister has been going thru a hard time with her husbands family.

Same family just different last name.  We are all the same.

The mother in law, who my sister has been taking care of for the last 11 years off and on was put in a nursing home the end of March, right after her birthday.  Exactly 30 days to drop off the MIL stopped living or wanting to live and she died a week later.

Unfortunately, the woman had money and was well past her 80s, so everyone was waiting for her to die. 

I can't remember how many kids she had, but my sister was the only person who truly cared for her and now she has guilt because she cared and no one else did, not even her husband.

My sister is a raging alcoholic, she is back on the beer tonight.  She admitted it. But she is in so much pain and anger that she cannot get past the guilt or sadness.

She is, in my opinion à bit bipolar and a raging narcissists who married an even bigger narcissists.  She has done a lot for his family and not been given one ounce of credit, but with that said, she has done and said some things that warrant their opinions.

Kettle calling the other black because I have done some things and said some things as well.  I've apologized and tried to fit in, but square does not fit round, no matter how hard you try to shave off the edges.

She wants support, but she is so wrapped up in the "all about me" she cannot get past the rest of it.

I can honestly say the day I forgave all of it,every last bit of it, including me and my part in all of it, I have become a much happier person.

Now that the mil is cremated, they have her in the house...strange things are going on.  The mil is still
Trying to get attention.  Try to help, bit no it is okay, we will continue to live this way.  Okay...I guess.  Biut how is it working for you?

Unfortunately, narcissistic people cannot get past their own issues much less help get past others.  You are okay as long as your stuff is no where near as sad or important as theirs.

God love her...some one needs to.

Frustrated in bathtub full of cold water.